in The Whiteboard by Coach Poach
Happy New Year, CrossFit New Haven! The beginning of a new year always brings with it the classic question, “what are your new year’s resolutions?” I was asked this by a friend a few days ago and responded with a look that said, “no, none of that silliness.” Personally, I don’t get too jazzed up about a new month/week/year being the reason to start, stop, do more or less, of something, etc etc. I certainly see the utility in a commitment device like the New Year though, and know that many people can benefit from it. While I say “I don’t so resolutions,” I certainly do set goals though, which can be synonymous with resolutions depending on the nature, and wanted to share some tactics, and some reminders, that help keep me on track to accomplishing the goals I set.
Write them down
Seriously. On a piece of paper, not on your phone or a computer or tablet. Whether it be a goal for the day, week, month, or year, or a resolution, just write it down. It becomes much more real when you can see your goal.
Post ‘em up
You can’t just write it down and throw it in the junk drawer. Instead, post it up somewhere you’ll see it every damn day, preferably where other people will see them every day too. Mine goes on the fridge for any and all to see. Posting them somewhere they can be seen by not just yourself, but others as well, helps keep you accountable. When you walk past your goals on February 15th you’ll know intrinsically whether or not you’re actively working toward, or have accomplished, your goal.
Ask for help
Admittedly, this one can be tough. One of my major lessons from 2017 was that it’s OK to ask for help, and as a result can be very beneficial. Telling someone you have X goal, and asking them for help reaching this goal allows them to hold you accountable as well. For me, It helps tremendously to get that look from my wife when I’m doing something counterintuitive to my goal, especially when she knows, that i know, it’s counterintuitive to my goal. It’s not always easy to get that look, which is essentially a shot of reality and a reminder that, no, goals don’t get accomplished without sacrifice, commitment, and hard work. So if you’re like me and need to get that look from time-to-time to make sure you’re working toward your goal, post it somewhere other people can see them too and ask them for their help (it's ok to do that, i promise).
No, it’s not easy
You will never hear someone who accomplished almost anything say, “yeah, it was a total cakewalk to get where I am now. I sacrificed nothing, slept in all the time, never went to bed late, or got frustrated and wanted to quit, and I generally enjoyed every waking second of reaching this goal.” People never say that because it’s just not true. Please don’t believe everything (anything?) you see on social media. The most successful people didn’t get there by accident. They set goals, sacrificed, and worked their butts off to get on your facebook feed with 9.8 million views on their newest video about the latest in feline fashion (or something like that).
It’s not easy, but you CAN do it
If you’re reading this you likely didn’t stumble upon it. You’re probably a member of CrossFit New Haven. This alone is proof that you can do amazing things. You already overcame a fear of working out, or of being around a bunch of people you don’t know in your workout clothes. You’re making yourself comfortable with the uncomfortable, trying new things, setting personal records, and working toward living a healthier, happier lifestyle. This alone is proof that you can reach the goals you set! Will there be people who say you can’t do it, or who want you to fail? Hell yes. But f*ck them and f*ck that. You CAN do it and when you do, don’t hesitate to drop the f*cking mic and walk away from that trash. You don’t want people like that in your life. Rather, you want the people who will give you that look when they see you doing something counterproductive to the goal that you wrote down and put in front of your, and their, face.
You are strong, you are smart, and you are 100% capable of reaching your goals in 2018. Hopefully, these tactics and reminders help you, but if you’re still feeling shaky on that then hit us up we’ll be happy to explore ways we can help you reach your goals this year.